We all want things to go well for the younger ones in the church. We look at our newborns and toddlers and think of the great potential they have. The elementary and preteen ages show us how quickly these little ones grow. Teenagers try our patience sometimes, but then astound us with flashes of incredible maturity. Even if I don’t have children of my own, I can help the young people in my home congregation. No matter what stage the child, we all have a responsibility to help them grow in the Lord. Every child requires teaching. God commanded Israel to instruct their children in His precepts (Deu. 6:6-7). Israel’s failure led to apostasy in just one generation (Jdg. 2:10). Early training reduces the likelihood of departing from truth (Pro. 22:6). Delaying doctrine until adulthood risks grave consequences; we must redeem the time (Eph. 5:16).
Teaching must include correction. Rebuke is essential when behavior falters (Prov. 13:24), done in love, not anger (Eph. 6:4). While parents bear primary responsibility, other caring Christians can redirect misbehaving children. God expects older, experienced believers to guide the young (Tit. 2:4; Heb. 5:12). Seasoned brethren can offer valuable examples and advice to young or first-time parents, who should welcome this gentle support.
Correction must be balanced by encouragement. The child must understand that reproof is not out of disgust or hatred, but out of love and a desire to see him succeed. Paul taught, “Provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged” (Colossians 3:21). When teaching and correction are necessary, group them with encouragement for the good the child has done. We need to make sure our children know that adults believe they can succeed, and that they will be recognized when they do well. A child should never have to wonder if his parents’ love is based on his behavior. He needs to know first that he is loved unconditionally by his parents, as we pattern God’s unconditional love for us all (Romans 5:8).
Above all, pray for the children. They navigate ups and downs, testing boundaries, discovering individuality, and facing awkward phases. Contrary to popular views, the Bible—not children—leads the way. Our prayers accompany them, countering Satan’s efforts to derail the young and impressionable (Jms. 5:15-16).
A child’s faithful adulthood is no accident. Teaching, correction, encouragement, and prayer form the perfect balance for spiritual growth in young and old. Omitting any of these leaves them incomplete. Let us all commit to helping our youth grow in the Lord.
-Ross Haffner